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Of the following compliments, which would you want to hear the most?

As women, different things motivate us. A group of friends recently got together and starting comparing notes on compliments. One had recently been told that she was beautiful. She said that it made her day. Another said that she would prefer to hear that she is special.

Perhaps, different comments are appropriate at different times but, it got us thinking about what we most liked to hear. There doesn't seem to be a one size fits all.

What do you like to hear and why?

I love you (40.4%)

You're beautiful (23.8%)

You're smart (16.5%)

You're special (12.7%)

You're funny (6.5%)

Of the following compliments, which would you want to hear the most?
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  • mjbenczars By mjbenczars
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I think the most important things have changed for me as I've aged. Naturally it is vital to hear "I love you" from the people that you love. When I was younger I would have answered "you're beautiful" as the most important......but now I am so much less concerned with my looks and find it more important to laugh! I enjoy making people laugh and smile because it is contagious....makes life much sweeter and easier to get through the "tough" times/moments!

  • Mels519 By Mels519
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I don't think of I love you as a compliment. Calling "I love you" a compliment takes a way from the true meaning of it. So I picked beautiful b/c it brightens my day as silly as that may seem.

  • jucat5 By jucat5
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    It's hard to choose. I love to hear them all. However, since I have to choose it will have to be Your Beautiful. This not only boost my self esteem it also lets me know I am taking care of myself.

  • mistylee74 By mistylee74
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I would have to say "You're Funny." When I'm in a bad mood or feeling a little down, laughter always makes me feel better. To me there is nothing better than the sound of a good 'ole genuine laugh...even better with a snort or two ;-)

  • carolee99 By carolee99
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    It saddens mean that more women prefer to be thought of as beautiful then smart.....I really think that it is sad that so much importance is placed on superficial beauty. How sad.... I'll take being considered smart anyday at least that lasts a bit longer.

  • pretgrl By pretgrl
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I always like to hear that I am loved...

  • dragonflylover By dragonflylover
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I am happy to be thought of as a smart person. I want to always keep learning more everyday. I feel we are all here to learn. Knowledge is power.

  • clipherwings By clipherwings
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I know I'm smart and funny. But I have low self esteem, so I voted that I'd like to be called beautiful. Although, who knows if I'd actually believe it when it was said... maybe it would just be a wasted compliment on me.

  • cnbaker By cnbaker
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    Last week, while my son and I were shopping at the grocery store, a cashier approached us and said the kindest words: "you are truly beautiful and it shows on your son's face!" I thanked her and am still affected a week later by her comment. It made me feel special.

  • kbx4 By kbx4
    on Nov 16, 2007  

    I like it when my intelligence is recognized. Beauty is often artificial, and "I love you" comes too easily. I'm not that funny, so if someone said that to me, I admit I'd be tickled! But, overall, being acknowledged for being smart is a very good feeling...