Modern Etiquette: What Rules Still Exist? Tell us your thoughts to win a $75 Amazon gift card

    by   SheSpeaksTeam   

is this the date @ED : BlogVO [categoryId=70165, blogId=145580, blogTitle=Modern Etiquette: What Rules Still Exist? Tell us your thoughts to win a $75 Amazon gift card, publishingDate=July 10, 2019 12:00 AM, maxResponses=null, noOfComments=null, fileId=34884, blogClosingDate=null, blogCommentClosed=null, blogCategoryId=70165, queryId=0, blogCategoryIdIndex=0, sharedCategoriesList=null, blogStatusId=34, commentsClosedFlag=false, categoryIdForLog=0, blogModuleCategoryId=0, blogFileVo=null, latestCommentsList=null, verticalCatSeoURL=null, currentDate=03/29/2024, blogLink=null, authorName=SheSpeaksTeam, authorLognId=SheSpeaksTeam, authorAcctId=67580, vosTypeid=3, searchTestId=0, searchStatusId=0, searchAuthorType=0, authorBlogNumber=0, surveyData1=null, surveyData1Desc=null, surveyData2=null, surveyData2Desc=null, pullQuoteMemberId=null, filePath=null, fileName=null, vosType=0, subhead=null, offerSubhead=null, description=null, creationTime=null, authorFname=SheSpeaks, verticalCategoryId=null, sectionId=0, imageFileVO=FilesVO [fileId=34884, filePath=null, fileName=null, fileLength=0, fileWidth=0, createdBy=0, createByUser=null, creationTime=null, lastModifiedBy=0, lastModifiedByUser=null, lastModifiedTime=null, mimeType=null, fileRef=null, fileSize=0, extension=null, title=null, body=null, completeFilePath=/pages/img/redesign/blogs/Etiquette blog_07092019133957.jpeg, height=350, width=350, maxHeight=480, maxWidth=360, displayWidth=350, displayHeight=350, fileStatusId=0, searchKeyword=null, searchFlag=false, queryId=0, isExists=true], seoURL=Modern-Etiquette-What-Rules-Still-Exist-Tell-us-your-thoughts-to-win-a-75-Amazon-gift-card, seoTitle=null, pullQuotesList=null, pullQuote=null, pullQuoteId=0, searchFlag=false, authorByLine=null, authorDesc=null, authorLink=null, authorFileVO=FilesVO [fileId=42371, filePath=null, fileName=null, fileLength=0, fileWidth=0, createdBy=0, createByUser=null, creationTime=null, lastModifiedBy=0, lastModifiedByUser=null, lastModifiedTime=null, mimeType=null, fileRef=null, fileSize=0, extension=null, title=null, body=null, completeFilePath=/pages/img/membersnaps/SheSpeaks_Logo_Symbol_Only_10182021080530.jpg, height=1777, width=1777, maxHeight=50, maxWidth=50, displayWidth=50, displayHeight=50, fileStatusId=0, searchKeyword=null, searchFlag=false, queryId=0, isExists=true], authorFileId=42371, authorType=0, storyImgFileVO=null, storyImgFileId=0, videoHtml=, authorImageFileId=0, authorImageFileVO=null, previousCategoryId=null, previousBlogStatusId=0, fromBlogDetails=0, blogCategoryName=Living, blogCategoryUrl=null, blogCategoryDesc=null, defaultImage=false, tags=null, optionIds=null, tagOptionId=null, tagId=null, tag=null, tagID=0, tagDetails=null, tagIds=null, testId=0, extBlogURL=null, extBlogStatus=0, bloggerSince=null, extBlogLimit=0, authorTestsList=[], blogURL=, blogName=, bloggerProfileId=0, sliderBlog=false, eventonHome=false, vosonHome=false, partyAndGiveawayDate=07/28/2019, imageCredit=null, pullQuoteMemId=null, offerSubHead=null, subHead=null, displayOrder=0,includeInGoogleSearch=false]

Jul 10, 2019
351

"Dear Abby" was one of the original syndicated advice columns, appearing in over 1,200 newspapers and read by over 95 million people. Times have certainly changed since "Dear Abby" launched in 1956, but we are curious: are there still rules for common etiquette? And if so, what are they?

In the past few weeks, 5 burning questions have come up within the SheSpeaks Team. After much discussion, here are our best answers. Do you agree? Tell us what you think and you'll be entered to win a $75 Amazon gift card!

Are there any questions you'd love the answers to? Submit them and we'll include some of our favorites as future polls on our website!

Q 1. If you bring a dish to a get-together, is it appropriate to bring home the leftovers?

Not usually. Leftovers should be left for the host to enjoy. However, if there are a ton of leftovers and the host is truly insisting you take it, then take it. It's certainly not worth fighting over.

2. Is it rude to leave your cell phone on the table when dining with friends?

Yes, it's rude, but sometimes it has to be done. For example, if you are out without your kids, then it's ok to keep the phone out in case there is any issue at home. But don't take any calls or texts unless they are truly important. It's not fun to be at dinner with someone who cares more about their device than you.

3. If a single person is going in on a present with a couple who is married or dating, does the single person pay 50% and the couple pay 50% or does each individual person pay one-third?

If everyone knows the recipient equally, than everyone pays equally. But if the partner in the couple doesn't know the recipient and is really just a guest, then 50-50 might be ok. Make sure to talk about it with each other before assuming the amount.

4. How do you get out of an annoying group text conversation without insulting everyone in it?

No one wants to hear constant phone beeping when they're not interested in the chat. If there's a chance that the discussion will end soon, then just silence your phone and ignore it. But if it looks like this chain might be permanent, then it's ok to beg out. Best to send a light-hearted text, something like, "Hey all, love this group but need to get away from the phone and actually pay attention to my children! Can you remove me from the chat? Thx!"

5. Are thank you notes necessary? Do they always have to be hand-written?

Everyone appreciates a thank-you but there are varying degrees of how it needs to be said. If your friend buys you a drink for your bithday, sending a thank-you text afterwards is perfect. But if you receive more meaningful gifts, like at your wedding, graduation party or baby shower, than, yes, we still believe that hand-written notes are ideal. Email is ok for informal events if it is truly personalized. If someone spent time picking out a thoughtful (or expensive) gift for your new baby, they deserve something more than a group email saying, "Thanks for coming to my shower! Loved your gift!" 

What do you think? What questions do you have? Enter for the chance to win a $75 Amazon gift card!

#SheSpeaksEtiquette Giveaway

*One lucky contestant will be chosen at random to receive a $75 Amazon gift card. Giveaway is open through July 28th, 2019 to U.S. residents at least 18 years of age. Entrants must be a member of SheSpeaks. If you are not a member, click here to join. Winner will be notified by email.

Update: Thanks to all who entered! Congrats to our winner, SheSpeaks member beaniebaby70.

Make a Comment

 
SHARE
Comments
by KStar33 | Austintown, OH
Jul 11, 2019

I pretty much agree with all the answers. I'm sure certain circumstances that may change things, but these are pretty spot on answers.

by Adriis | ONTARIO, CA
Jul 11, 2019

Thank you notes are great.

by Bonniejoy74 | RIVERBANK, CA
Jul 11, 2019

I agree with this, and most of all, with the phone at the table. Phones at the table should only be allowed if truly necessary such as in the case of children as mentioned above.

by robind30 | Houston, TX
Jul 11, 2019

I agree with everything! This past weekend, my 93 year old grandmother raved to my 17 year old about how considerate he is for always writing thank you notes. She said (aside from me), he's the only one who does it. Sad!

by allison72884 | SHALIMAR, FL
Jul 11, 2019

Agreed.

by havenoo | Menlo park, CA
Jul 11, 2019

I agree with all.

by 2carrie2 | GRAND RAPIDS, MI
Jul 11, 2019

These are great answers. We all need to be more thoughtful.

by LuvtoDream | FOLSOM, CA
Jul 11, 2019

The above Modern Etiquette tips are fantastic tips that I pretty much agree with all of it. Personally, I think that a phone call to Thank a person for their gift is also a good thing to do as it's more personal than an email or text. However when it comes to large events like weddings, baby showers and graduations, it still is proper etiquette to send a hand written note. I received a hand written thank you card from a friend for a Christmas gift I gave her and I really appreciated that she did that as it was very nice of her to do. Also, I don't agree with having cell phones on the dinner table. What I do, is have it in my lap so I can check if I'm getting an important call, but never on the dinner table.

by jenniferklochdavis | DUNDALK, MD
Jul 11, 2019

1. Depends on the host some want you to take leftovers 2. Yes it's rude, my time is as important as yours 3. Each person 1/3 4. Just tell them politely you are in the middle of something and have to bow out gracefully 5. Yes they need to be written out it pains me when people don't thank you for a gift. If someone takes the time out to buy me a gift they are going to get a thank you card.

by Grammio | SANDERS, KY
Jul 11, 2019

Thank you notes aren't necessary, but some sort of acknowledgment is, especially if I'm not there when you open it. I'm a young great-grandma & feel we need to change with the times.

by bonita7878 | SPRING VALLEY, CA
Jul 11, 2019

I am in four different work group texts and none of them are really even work related... so annoying.

by igggie | abbeville, LA
Jul 11, 2019

I agree, no phone no loud music and no yelling

by Peachesncream887 | NASHUA, NH
Jul 11, 2019

For question 2 I do not think it is rude. I think it is fair for everyone to check their phone every once in a while to make sure they are not missing important calls or texts. Now if they are on their phone consistently the whole time without a good reason then that is rude.

by oliliak | South Orange, NJ
Jul 11, 2019

I agree with all.

by cshell202 | SPOKANE, WA
Jul 10, 2019

I love thank you notes for the right situations.

-->